Monday, January 11, 2016

Five simple rules to be happy from a 92-yr old

    I shared this wonderful post on Facebook and wanted to share it here with you as well. What I love about this story of Amber Brown is that it totally reflects my own personal approach to achieving happiness in life. I do my best to live by Amber Brown's 5 rules to be happy and although it is not always easy on some days when things happen that are so difficult to make sense of, it is certainly worth this reminder. Like any habit, it takes conscious effort so I aim to remain self-aware of that self-talk inside my head that can steer me in a positive or negative direction depending on what I choose to allow it to do. I invite you to take this moment to look at the photo and read this short post about Amber Brown, a 92-year old lady with a great attitude and five simple rules to be happy. 

    AMBER BROWN - NOV. 4, 2015

    The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with her hair fashionably coiffed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. 

    After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. “I love it,” she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy. “Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room …. just wait.” “That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged, it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away, just for this time in my life.” She went on to explain, “Old age is like a bank account, you withdraw from what you’ve put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank. I am still depositing.” And with a smile, she said: “Remember the five simple rules to be happy: 1. Free your heart from hatred. 2. Free your mind from worries. 3. Live simply. 4. Give more. 5. Expect less

    Roslyn Franken is an inspirational speaker, proud cancer survivor and author of MEANT TO BE: A TRUE STORY OF MIGHT, MIRACLES AND TRIUMPH OF THE HUMAN SPIRIT. Visit

Wednesday, December 30, 2015

Personal Reflections for the New Year

Can you believe 2015 is almost behind us? WHERE did the time fly? I feel like it was just yesterday that my husband and I were confirming our plans for New Year's Eve and now here we are again. I don't know about you, but 2015 was a big year for me. Some of the biggest highlights include:

  1. Finishing writing and publishing my newest book, MEANT TO BE. Now this was no easy task to complete. It took more time and energy than I could have imagined from writing every word to designing the cover, formatting the book and getting it all just right for publication. Wow! I learned so much in the process as I'd never done a lot of these things before. I decided to self-publish through my own publishing company called 10-Q Publishing. With this second book of mine, I can honestly call myself a publisher now as I did it all and am very proud of my accomplishments. Are you thinking of writing a book? Not sure how or where to even begin? Maybe I can help you. 
  2. Celebrated my 50th birthday at the Friars Club in New York City watching my husband up on stage in the Frank Sinatra room performing his special brand of comedy magic to a great crowd. I was so proud of him as he made history that night as the first Canadian Comedy Magician to ever perform at the Friars Club. How cool is that?
  3. Did a big Book Launch and Presentation of my book, MEANT TO BE. Got a full room standing ovation and the best part was my father, age 93, was in the audience looking up at me. So now I have accomplished 2 goals. I wanted to publish the book in his lifetime and have him be in the front row at the big launch event and presentation. Yes, it feels good.
  4. Gave my MEANT TO BE presentation for my first group of high school students and loved the experience so much that I am looking to tour high schools with my presentation across North America as the feedback from the students was so positive and inspiring. Had no idea that speaking to high school students would ever be on my radar. What an exciting adventure this is to know that my book and story can touch the lives of students especially those in Grade 10 who are the same age my mother was when she was taken by the Nazis at 15.
  5. I also gave my presentation at my first Church. That too was extremely rewarding as the presentation was so well received and also unexpected. Here's how it came about...  
As the story of the book is about my parents' remarkable lives with my mother a Holocaust survivor in Nazi Europe and my father a survivor of the Nagasaki atomic bomb as a POW in Japan and both of the Jewish faith, one of the audience members at a business association I spoke for earlier in the year came up to me and asked if I would be comfortable to speak in a Church. I told him that I would absolutely be comfortable as long as his Church members want to hear the story. My parents' story is about survival and hope, faith and fortitude, courage and determination and transcends any specific religious faith. It is not just about history or spirituality but about humanity so it was my absolute pleasure to accept his invitation. I am looking to speak at many more Churches in the future.

So as you can see I've been super busy with so many firsts, so many new interests, so many new goals. It's been a lot of work and I've made a lot of sacrifices along the way, but I have no regrets.

Before you look back at the year and start thinking about all the things you didn't accomplish, I ask that you take a deep breath and a step back and reflect on all the good things that happened this past year... What did you achieve? What special memories did you create? What joys did you experience? What were your highlights whether professionally or personally? Do you want to share them? I'd love to hear about it so I invite you to share here in a comment or send me an email It's too easy to get negative about what could have been so shake all that off and focus on the positive, what is and now take another step back and give thought to what you'd like to see happen in 2016. And then.... just enjoy the ride and keep focused and open to possibilities.

Wishing you the very best for a very healthy, happy and prosperous New Year.

Warmest regards,

Monday, May 25, 2015

Good to be back with my newest book, MEANT TO BE

It’s been a while since my last post and it’s good to be back. So what have I been up to? Why has it been so long since you’ve heard from me? Well, about a year and a half ago I made a commitment that I wanted to write a book about my parents’ remarkable life story within my father’s lifetime. As he was turning 93 this year, I knew that I did not have the luxury of time on my side. As I’m sure you’ll agree, it is often far too easy to procrastinate on our goals and dreams as we always seem to think we have plenty of time. Without a sense of urgency or commitment, the days, weeks, months and sometimes even years can fly by and next thing you know we still haven’t taken any action toward what we really want to achieve.

All this to say that I could not afford to let myself procrastinate any further on writing my book. It was something I decided to do and so I just buckled down and got it done. With this decision and course of action came sacrifices. I had to prioritize my goals, time and energy and made writing a top priority. If you’re like me, sometimes we can fall into the trap of thinking we have to do it all and be it all and we take on too much. Sound familiar? And then sometimes it’s just so much and overwhelming that we crash and then don’t get anything done. So my decision was to let go of my blog and radio show just for a short while, to take a bit of a hiatus so I could just focus on the book. My tendency is to spread myself too thin and focus on too many things at once so this time I was determined to be smarter and wiser about how I went after my goal to write my book.
Meant to Be book by Roslyn Franken
The good news is that the book is written, published and now available at I am extremely proud of this book as it was not easy to write. It is a very personal and inspirational account where I reveal the unforgettable true story of my parents, John and Sonja Franken - two brave and unlikely survivors of World War II who find enduring love in the most extraordinary of circumstances and then conquer life-threatening health setbacks with the same daring and determination that allowed them to survive their captivity. I also share how when diagnosed with cancer at age 29, I turned to my parents’ examples of positivity and perseverance as inspiration in my own fight to beat cancer and become a long-term survivor.
How did John and Sonja survive their captivity? How did they meet to find enduring love? What did I learn from my parents that can help us all live better lives? The amazing answers to these questions and more are what make up the powerful story of MEANT TO BE.

MEANT TO BE will capture your heart, uplift your spirit and open your mind to new possibilities, leaving you both spellbound and wonderfully inspired with universal messages on how to live a better life and make our world a better place.
I have an amazing stage presentation that I will be taking on tour to share their story for groups looking for a speaker who will engage, inspire and uplift their audiences with this incredible true story of survival, positivity and perseverance as well as daring and determination, and the powers of faith and fortitude. If you belong to or know of any organizations who may be interested, please do let me know at

This has been a true passion project for me on so many levels and now I get to share it with the world. I invite you to check it out and get your copy today at

Friday, January 23, 2015

A New Way of Managing your Goals

“People think that the best thing about setting goals is achieving them. For me it's not just about achieving the end goal but the wonderful satisfaction of taking action and seeing progress”. ~ Roslyn Franken

I came up with this thought this morning and while posting it on my Facebook page at you haven’t LIKED my Facebook page yet, please feel free to do so), it inspired me to write this post. I hope this will give you the boost you might need to help you manage your goals in a new way and keep going after whatever goal it is you are working toward.

Setting goals is one of those magical things that just about every success guru will tell you is important to do. Then they will tell you to set a date by which you must achieve this goal and just do whatever you need to do to get your desired results and outcome.

I’m all for setting goals, but I don’t necessarily set hard deadlines by which I MUST achieve them. This has definitely worked better for me. I’ve seen so many people set these hard goals and deadlines whether it’s a goal relating to weight loss, reaching sales targets, writing a book, even getting married and having babies. It all sounds wonderful and magical when you first set the goals filled with excitement and enthusiasm, but then what often happens is reality hits. Things don’t always go as planned and work out perfectly. Obstacles get in the way. There are bumps in the road. Then the hard deadline comes and passes and you end up feeling like a big failure yet again because for whatever reasons you did not meet your goal.

This is the hardest point to be at because if you can’t find a way to forgive yourself and keep it all going without throwing in the towel and giving up on your desired goal, then it is that much more difficult to ever reach your goal. It will just seem impossible and like too much work so you may not even want to bother trying anymore. Sound familiar?

So, here’s what I’ve learned from the school of hard knocks. Life is not perfect. Things don’t go as planned. Some days you’re going to have your mojo and be on top of your game and other days, well, not so much. So if you don’t meet that hard and fast deadline, so what? So what if it takes you a little bit longer? I’m not saying to procrastinate and make excuses, I’m just saying that if life gets in the way or you have some challenging bumps in the road to get over first, then do yourself a favor and do what you need to do to get over the bumps and be kind to yourself in the process. To make meaningful and positive changes in your life takes time. Give yourself the gift of time and let go of the deadlines that are just stressing you out and setting you back in the long run.

I’ve learned to enjoy the min-victories along the way to my goals. I’ve learned to celebrate the moments in the process I’m following toward my goals. This is what keeps me so motivated and determined. Without ongoing motivation and determination, it is very difficult to keep it all going. I’m working on some pretty huge projects at the moment that I will soon be sharing with you and although I have no idea how they’re all going to play out and in what timeframe, I sure am enjoying the process. I’m celebrating the many amazing connections I’m making, the progress and increasing fearlessness that is resulting from the successes I’m willing to recognize even when things don’t go exactly as I’d envisioned.

When things don’t work out as planned, the beauty is that sometimes they work out even better.

What is YOUR goal and in what ways can I help to get you started or keep it going when your motivation and determination wane? If you think you can benefit from some extra help and support, then let’s talk. I offer one FREE consultation that you can book online right now at  or you can email me at with 3 suggested dates and times. If one of your goals is weight loss, then you’ll also want to take my FREE Online Weight Loss Readiness Assessment. Check it out at

Wishing you continued health, success and happiness.
Roslyn Franken

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Simplified Fast & Easy Coconut Milk Curry Chicken & Veggies Recipe

Roslyn's Coconut Milk Curry Chicken & Veggies Recipe
I was planning a family dinner and wanted to make my favorite recipe for coconut milk curry chicken. It’s considered 'fast and easy', but it still  does require a number of separate steps. When people ask me where I find time to cook healthy meals from scratch, I need them to understand that since I am just as busy as they are, I am always looking for shortcuts to simplify otherwise more complicated recipes even ones that claim to be 'fast and easy'. So I asked myself how I could make my coconut milk curry chicken recipe even faster and easier by cutting out some of the steps.

I’ll direct you to the actual recipe in just a moment, but want to first show you how I simplified the cooking instructions by being just a little imaginative:

The original recipe calls for sautéing the onion and garlic till golden brown which takes time and effort. You then have to cut up chicken thighs into bite size pieces which takes extra time and effort and then add the chicken to the onions and garlic and lightly brown on all sides which again takes extra time and attention. In the mean time you have your coconut curry sauce cooking in a separate pan. So now you have to dirty two pans.

So here’s what I did differently:

  1. I used boneless, skinless chicken breasts instead of chicken thighs and did not cut them into pieces. I left them whole - FASTER & EASIER.
  2. Instead of dirtying a second pan to sauté the onions and garlic and brown the chicken pieces, I simply placed the chicken breasts in a glass rectangular baking dish which I lined with aluminum foil to make clean up faster and easier, too - FASTER & EASIER.
  3. Instead of sautéing the onions and garlic, I just sprinkled it all raw all across the chicken breasts - FASTER & EASIER.
  4. I then spooned the coconut milk curry sauce over the chicken breasts until they were just covered. I put a piece of foil on top to seal the dish and then baked it in the oven. So the only real preparation time is to heat the coconut milk and curry and then pour it over the chicken. VERY fast and easy. Doesn’t get simpler than this.
  5. As there was still a bit of sauce left in the pan, I cut up some carrots, sweet potato, red pepper and broccoli and cooked it in the remainder sauce on the stovetop on a low to medium heat while the chicken was baking in the oven. You can use whatever veggies you like. Just check on the veggies every so often to see if you might need to add a bit of water.
And voila, a delicious meal with very little preparation time and very little attention to cooking. I then cooked up some rice and served it with the veggies on top and the chicken breast on the side as per photo.

For detailed recipe, click HERE, where you’ll find some other of my fast and easy recipes. Please do let me know if you try this recipe and if you liked it. If you have any questions, please do let me know. And as always, please do share.

Wishing you a delicious meal!
Roslyn Franken
Speaker. Author. Coach.

Thursday, September 25, 2014

If she can do this, I can do anything!

I came across this incredibly inspiring video and had to share this with you. This is an unbelievable story of an amazing young woman who faces extreme obstacles that we couldn't even imagine. Yet, she has a remarkable attitude that defies all odds and limitations. She was raised to be believe that she can do anything if she puts her mind to it. There is no such thing as ‘I can’t’ in her vocabulary. I, too, was raised by parents who gave me that same kind of belief system. They always encouraged me and my mother specifically always told me that she knew I was destined to make a difference in this world. 

Sadly, many people did not grow up with parents who helped them believe in themselves from a young age. Many people don’t have confidence in themselves and are afraid of trying to achieve their best for fear of failing. Whether or not your parents believed in you and supported you in doing whatever it is you dream of and wish for, it is no longer about them. It’s time to let that go. You’re on your own now and it is now up to you.

I am working hard right now on some ambitious projects that I believe in wholeheartedly. You’ll be hearing more about them. What ambitious projects or goals would you like to embark on that you believe in wholeheartedly? Yes, they may seem impossible. Yes, you may feel that you can’t do it. Yes, you may have no idea where to start. Yes, you may be afraid of failing, making mistakes or what other people will think. However, whenever I have moments of self-doubt, and yes, those moments do arise from time to time, I think about people who inspire me. When I watched this video, I decided that the young lady in this video is one of those people I will add to my roster of those who inspire me with a feeling of ‘I can do anything’. This story is also about miracles. I absolutely believe in miracles or things that just seem meant to be. Wait to till you see what happens. Maybe what you are dreaming of doing or making happen in your life is also meant to be? You have no idea where starting your own journey will take you. 

I invite you to take just a few minutes out of your hectic day to watch this powerful story. Please do share your comments and let me know what you think. 

And don’t forget that one of the many professional services I offer is coaching people to live a healthy and happy life. If this video inspires you and you have a goal or dream that you wish to pursue but need some guidance, support and encouragement, please don’t hesitate to call me to see how I can help you. You can schedule a call at

Wishing you continued health, success and happiness.

Roslyn Franken

Monday, July 28, 2014

How texting nearly destroyed this marriage

I heard about a married couple struggling to keep their marriage alive after 30 some years. The wife complained that her husband was working too much and that they didn’t have enough ‘together’ time.  She’d tried over the years to get him to slow down and create some more balance in his life, but he never made it happen. He was a workaholic and didn’t know how to change his ways. It’s not like anyone was holding a gun to his head forcing him to work those long hours. At the end of the day, this was a matter of choice – HIS choice.

It wasn’t just that he was working so much, but when he was with his wife, he was constantly texting and on his computer for one reason or another. She'd asked him to just 'be' with her when he was with her, but again he refused to change his habits. She missed the face to face connection and conversation they used to enjoy sharing as part of their relationship.

As they were getting older and seeing more and more friends divorcing and having heart attacks, cancer and other health problems, she was worrying more and more about her marriage as well as her husband’s health and well-being which in turn was affecting her health and well-being. The bottom line was that she afraid of losing him and the relationship they’d invested in for so many years and their health on top of it.
Not giving up, one day the wife spoke up once again to her husband. Having just heard about the breakup of another friends’ long-time marriage, the husband listened and finally took his wife’s feelings to heart.  It finally made sense for him. For all the other times she’d voiced her complaints and he’d been unable to truly hear them and make some changes, now the timing was right and he was ready and willing to make the commitment to change.

First, he made a commitment to take more vacations with her. This meant NO texting, NO emails, NO cel phone. Whatever came up could wait. This was now sacred time for him and his wife to be there for one another without intrusion of technology.

For the first while, the husband was in complete withdrawal desperately wanting to check his smart phone for messages, texts, etc…  but he quickly noticed the incredible peace that came over him with not feeling this pressure to constantly be on his phone. He was able to truly enjoy hours on end just relaxing or going on outings without being weighed down by his phone and any sense of obligation to respond to others while on his personal time with his beloved wife.
What he and his wife also came to realize was that they had also established texting habits that were not supporting their quest for a healthier marriage. When he was away working, he and his wife often texted each other with quick updates on what they were up to and how their days were going, often expressed in short, small sound bites. By the time they got home, they already knew all about each other’s days which gave them less to talk face to face.

Years ago, before smart phones and texting, they would both look forward to getting home from their busy days and sharing with each other face to face, eye to eye, energy to energy, in great detail how their days went over a glass of wine or cup of tea. It’s called 'real' conversation with full sentences and everything. They hadn’t done that for years and they realized that was something they were both missing. Solution? They agreed not to text anymore throughout the day. They preferred to go back to how things used to be which for them worked better for their relationship.

I’m not suggesting that these solutions are for everyone, but I can absolutely see the value in a couple taking more time together for vacations without the intrusion of technology. Vacations don’t have to be Carribean get-aways. You can even do a stay-cation, where you spend a weekend away at a retreat or hotel in your own city. It’s just about getting away from it all, breaking the routine, and spending quality time together doing pleasurable activities.

Whether you choose to change your texting habits with your significant other is also a choice you may want to make.  Given this couple’s story, I can absolutely see the value in cutting back or even cutting out completely all the texting throughout the day as long as you then have some meaningful conversation instead where LOL actually means you 'laugh out loud' together in each other’s presence and not alone behind a little screen. It’s just not the same. I encourage you to try it sometime.

What are your thoughts on all this? Are there any changes that you and your partner need to improve your connection and relationship? Need help deciding what changes to make and how to make them? I help individuals and couples create meaningful and positive changes for a healthier, happier life. If you’re curious as to how I can help you, contact me for a no-fee, no-obligation, no-pressure consultation. Call 813-803-0155 or schedule a phone call using my confidential and secure online scheduler at